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Mother Mary said to me the other day:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Be at peace with all your feelings now, including your feisty ones. Remember the women around the fire. <\/span><\/i>(Opening of \u201cMirari.\u201d)<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

I <\/span>do<\/span><\/i> rather like my feisty feelings. To discover that, I had to first reject victimhood, which I carried for a long time. It helped me tremendously when I recently remembered, or maybe better said, \u201crealized\u201d the connection between victimhood and the bitterness of the heart. Feisty feelings have an energy that helps\u00a0 me cast off what could be called the \u201chabit\u201d of the victim.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

I\u2019m speaking of this because a very good friend of mine, Christie Lord, spoke the word \u201cvictim\u201d to me the other day. I was telling her of the way in which I responded to a certain situation, and she said, \u201cMari, don\u2019t be a victim. Just state what you want to state and be done with it.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Suddenly, in that moment, I realized that I had fallen back into an old habit. I didn\u2019t need to stay there. I could, and would, speak my truth. I\u2019ve heard those words before\u2014even in the midst of confrontations: <\/span>Just say it! Whatever it is! Spit it out!<\/span><\/i> But I\u2019d not heard them alongside the word \u201cvictim.\u201d Maybe I needed the word \u201cvictim\u201d so that I could hear the way I sound. So that I could identify the underlying feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

How could we better (and more quickly) \u201chear ourselves?\u201d Catch ourselves in our lifelong patterns or habits? How do we do it without good friends to draw our attention to what we can\u2019t see? Many of us, women particularly I think, have had this issue. We feel bad about what we say, and equally bad about what we can\u2019t say. We have stop signs up all over the place.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Victim is a stop sign.<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Welcome the friends who will tell you when you \u201csound\u201d like a victim. You are very likely not \u201cbeing\u201d a victim but are only caught in an old habit. Familiar situations can do that to us. They draw us, like an unconscious memory. We find ourselves saying things we don\u2019t mean, because we\u2019re feeling in a way we thought we had abandoned.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Look on these opportunities kindly. Each of them helps us to see what we need to see, to abandon the ways we used to be. They are not our truth, but only our habit.<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

The patterns of the new will begin to arise naturally<\/span><\/p>\n

when you deny the patterns of the old. D:2.3<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Most of you are aware of having at least some role in the creation of your life. You may feel that at times God has intervened, or that at times you have been a victim of fate, but you are also aware of the role you have had in your own life, primarily as you have reached maturity and begun to make choices. While it has just been said that you will create in unity and relationship much as you \u201ccreated\u201d during the separation, your creation in unity and relationship will be free of choice. Creation in unity and relationship is creation within the embrace of the All of All. How can you choose when what you create is everything? D:Day 35.21<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

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Mother Mary said to me the other day:\u00a0   Be at peace with all your feelings now, including your feisty ones. Remember the women around the fire. (Opening of \u201cMirari.\u201d)   I do rather like my feisty feelings. To discover that, I had to first reject victimhood, which I carried for a long time. It […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":822,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"

Mother Mary said to me the other day:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

Be at peace with all your feelings now, including your feisty ones. Remember the women around the fire. <\/span><\/i>(Opening of \u201cMirari.\u201d)<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

I <\/span>do<\/span><\/i> rather like my feisty feelings. To discover that, I had to first reject victimhood, which I carried for a long time. It helped me tremendously when I recently remembered, or maybe better said, \u201crealized\u201d the connection between victimhood and the bitterness of the heart. Feisty feelings have an energy that helps\u00a0 me cast off what could be called the \u201chabit\u201d of the victim.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

I\u2019m speaking of this because a very good friend of mine, Christie Lord, spoke the word \u201cvictim\u201d to me the other day. I was telling her of the way in which I responded to a certain situation, and she said, \u201cMari, don\u2019t be a victim. Just state what you want to state and be done with it.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

Suddenly, in that moment, I realized that I had fallen back into an old habit. I didn\u2019t need to stay there. I could, and would, speak my truth. I\u2019ve heard those words before\u2014even in the midst of confrontations: <\/span>Just say it! Whatever it is! Spit it out!<\/span><\/i> But I\u2019d not heard them alongside the word \u201cvictim.\u201d Maybe I needed the word \u201cvictim\u201d so that I could hear the way I sound. So that I could identify the underlying feeling.<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

How could we better (and more quickly) \u201chear ourselves?\u201d Catch ourselves in our lifelong patterns or habits? How do we do it without good friends to draw our attention to what we can\u2019t see? Many of us, women particularly I think, have had this issue. We feel bad about what we say, and equally bad about what we can\u2019t say. We have stop signs up all over the place.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

Victim is a stop sign.<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

Welcome the friends who will tell you when you \u201csound\u201d like a victim. You are very likely not \u201cbeing\u201d a victim but are only caught in an old habit. Familiar situations can do that to us. They draw us, like an unconscious memory. We find ourselves saying things we don\u2019t mean, because we\u2019re feeling in a way we thought we had abandoned.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

Look on these opportunities kindly. Each of them helps us to see what we need to see, to abandon the ways we used to be. They are not our truth, but only our habit.<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

The patterns of the new will begin to arise naturally<\/span><\/p>

when you deny the patterns of the old. D:2.3<\/span><\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

Most of you are aware of having at least some role in the creation of your life. You may feel that at times God has intervened, or that at times you have been a victim of fate, but you are also aware of the role you have had in your own life, primarily as you have reached maturity and begun to make choices. While it has just been said that you will create in unity and relationship much as you \u201ccreated\u201d during the separation, your creation in unity and relationship will be free of choice. Creation in unity and relationship is creation within the embrace of the All of All. How can you choose when what you create is everything? D:Day 35.21<\/span><\/p>

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